What Are You Doing?

It’s crazy how to we can from one appointment to the next, one sports season, theater run, campaign or program to the next and forget to live life.

Parenthood can be filled with feeding people, getting them places, and keeping them mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually healthy.

Everything can become one GIANT to-do list.

And we forget those hopes, dreams, goals we had when children were first given to us.

Julie Bogart reminds us that it isn’t about systematizing our children’s education (or life).  “It’s how well you share your enthusiasm for life, learning, art, literature, the power of math equations to create quilts or build forts or sell cookies, the excitement of an election year to convey the importance of politics, volunteering in your free time so that your kids learn about sharing themselves with other, and finally your enthusiasm for them–these human beings entrusted to you that you admire, respect for for whom you hold an enormous imagination about how well they will contribute to the world as adults.  ”  A Gracious Space -Fall Edition.  Day 1.

First, there is the assumption that you have passions, visions, and enthusiasm.  God placed these children under your care.  It’s easy to lose ourselves in doing for your children.  But then they are missing YOU.  God placed these children in your home as your chlldren because the uniqueness of you, your spouce, your living situation will best prepare them for the good works He has for them to do (Eph 1).  If we bury our passions, our personality and become wholly child-center, they miss out on the best part-YOU!.  The practical outworkings of this are challenging at best.  We don’t simply ignore their passions and interests.  We don’t pursue our own interests and leave them to fend for themselves.  We bring them into our realm- and we willingly expand our horizons to include their passions and interests.

Second, we affirm them.  We delight in them.  We dream for them, and then let those dreams go for the passion God has placed in their hearts.  We bless them.  We let them know we believe that with God’s help they CAN.  We urge them to use those drives, passions, and talents and serve God and seek His kingdom in whatever venue He desires.

To Be Undestood and To Understand: ADD/ADHD

Recently, I stumble on this short video that I thought was quite insightful.  Chances are you know someone that has this challenge-or you ARE that person!  I think it may be worth your time to take a few minutes to watch this video and share your thoughts!


Persevere til the End

The NIV gives this title to a section of chapter 10 of Hebrews. In reality, this is a microcosm of the entire book. As I embark on a journey into Hebrews with the NAV’s Lifechange series book as my guide, the first step is to read the book in one sitting, as was likely done by the early church that received it!
This book is indeed about Jesus supremacy as many preachers and commentators have purported. However, it seems that it is rarely brought to bare the reason the author so adamantly and meticulously lays out his argument for the supremacy of the Lord Jesus Christ. Jesus is the ultimate superlative. Are we to tuck this information in our brain and move on? It was not intended as simply head knowledge. A quick reading of he the book of Hebrews reveals that the author uses every available method to persuade his readers that it is because of the supremacy of Christ that they should be willing to endure the hardship of every kind and do it persistently until their time on earth is over. The author utilizes comfort, encouragement, dire warnings of judgment, logic, and history to induce the readers to endure.
I once asked a counselor for veterans with PTSD what the difference, outside the societal milieu, was between the veterans of World War II and current veterans. His answer has haunted me as I look at myself, my children and others around me. It is common in our era for people to lack endurance. If it can’t be fixed in a month or six weeks, this counselor found that many of his patients would resort to suicide. They lacked whatever character it took to endure hardship longer.
Our Christian lives are much the same. Believers become disillusioned when faced with hardship, discouragement, and discomfort of various kinds.
Where do we find the gumption to endure? Why should we even bother? I suspect the deeper study into the book of Hebrews will reveal the answers to these questions in a powerful way.

Can You Plan with Littles Underfoot?

Herding cats.  Catching water with your hand.   Sometimes life with littles seems like a fair ride where you don’t know whether the next second will be joyous, exhilarating or terrifying.  And then there are those who think you can and should actually manage that ride!

Mystie Winkler and Celeste Cruz will be having a live chat on Tuesday, July 19 to help you  as you seek to plan life with the myriad of “interruptions” life with young children brings.  It’s free. Just register here. 

Organization for the executively challenged

While trying to find some tips on staying organized (I have fun getting organized, it’s staying there that challenges me), I ran across this great article for people with dyslexia on time and organizational skills.  I like how she matter-of-factly says essentially “Hey, we struggle  with this- how do we fix it”.

Her tips are helpful for many diagnosis–and for those of us who aren’t !

Discovering and Responding to Challenges

Most of us have some pretty amazing dreams and plans when it comes to our children.  And sometimes, well most of the time, things don’t turn out quite as we plan.  When  we begin to suspect our child may have a challenge of some type, or the truth is suddenly thrust into our face,it can be like be  like unexpectedly finding ourselves in a foreign land. Come listen in for the next 40 minutes as we explore this new land and begin to learn our way around this new world.


PLEASE make sure the volume on the youtube site as well as the volume on your device is up.  There have been a few who have not been able to hear it well but I have found adjusting the volume on the youtube channel to solve this. If it does not, please let me know!~

Monique Stam is a homeschool mom of 10.  In this journey she has experienced a variety of challenges.This messages was originally given to the GRACEDucators homeschool group in April of 2016 and graciously shared by one of its members who recorded it with permission  Please do not share without express permission.

This messages was originally given to the GRACEDucators homeschool group in April of 2016 and graciously shared by one of its members who recorded it with permission  Please do not share without express permission.